Demanding: No More Needy Children

Demanding behavior in children is pretty self explanatory. These types of children want things their way and they don’t want to wait for it. They want all their needs and issues met and who has to help meet these needs? Mostly, you do. The biggest mistake that parents make when dealing with this type of behavior is giving in to it. They take the easy way out. If the parents don’t teach them how to properly act they may grow up to become a demanding, selfish adult.

Solutions to Stop Demanding Behavior

Uncover the Reason

Like all other behaviors, the only way to help the problem is to find the reason for the behavior. Below are some common reasons children have demanding behavior.

• Attention, you favor another child

• Need for possessions to fit in

• Never learned courtesy

• Has never been taught how to ask for something nicely

• No one listens to them

• They get their own way

Once you have noticed the reason your child acts the way they do, you are ready to help the issue.

New Expectations

Make sure your child realizes that their demanding behavior will no longer be tolerated. Make sure you let them know that if they want something, they should ask nicely and respectfully and not demand. If they do not ask nicely, tell them you will not listen to them until they do. DO NOT give into the demands; this only makes the problem worse.

There is a Difference between Needs and Wants

You must teach your child that there is a difference between needs and wants. A need is something that is necessary and a want is something that is not essential. Remember, only to answer your child if they ask in a polite way.

Teach Them Courtesy

The reason many children are so demanding is because they were never really taught the proper way to ask for something. They usually yell, whine, scream, or are loud to get your attention. Make sure you teach them the proper way to ask for something. They need a calm tone of voice, and also need manners such as, please and thank you.

Teach Empathy

Children with demanding behavior often don’t care about other people’s feelings because they are selfish and only care about themselves. They also don’t realize what they sound like when they are being demanding. Make sure your child knows how the other person feels.

Say “No”

Make sure you aren’t afraid to say “no” to your child when they get demanding. The world does not revolve around them and make sure they know that. This is the most important advice I can give to any parent. DO NOT GIVE IN TO THEIR DEMANDS. You must not give in, ever. This only teaches your child that they can get what they want.

Also, tell other people that take care of your child these tips. If they are helping you help your child, the problem will be cured so much faster. Do not let your child win. Demanding people are not well liked in the real world.